1)
Marriage is a long term ibadhah. It’s like a
marathon. It can be your road to jannah or road to Jahannam. The most important
thing is you must have the right knowledge.
2)
Islam is always the ultimate judge. When there
is a conflict, always asks, what does Islam says in this matter?
3)
Never and ever in your marriage say anything
negative about your spouse relatives/family.
4)
Never and ever argue in front of your in laws,
children, relatives or peers, even on facebook.
5)
Never and ever humiliate your spouse in front of
anybody.
6)
Never discuss your spouse private secrets with anybody.
7)
Never raised your voice at each other. Be calm
and take wudhu if you are angry.
8)
Men are the head of the house while the wife is
the advisor.
9)
Spend quality time with your spouse.
10) Don’t
be shame to say sorry.
11) Never
leave an issue/conflict unresolved before you go to sleep.
12) Never
and ever compare your spouse with other people.
13) Never
assume that your spouse can read your minds (especially for women).
14) Never
abuse the god given right of intimate obligation.
15) Never
lie to each other.
16) Always
approach a problem to solve it. A muslim is always part of the solution. Be
positive.
17) Don’t
insist on your partner. He will not change overnight.
18) Give
each other appreciation, respect and love EVERY SINGLE DAY.
19) Never
generalize things about your spouse.
20) Before
demanding your right, fulfill your obligation/responsibility first.
21) Always
be mindful to Allah. Look at your spouse as a mirror. Always correct each
other.
22) When
something is wrong with your spouse or in your marriage, do not straight away
asks for divorce, always try to find the best solution.
23) Be
constant in remembering Allah, be grateful to Allah and always complement each
other.
24) Do
not pick on each other’s fault. Do not see every fault of your spouse.
25) Know
your responsibility and limits to your parents and in laws. For husband, don’t
trade your mom with your wife, otherwise you are sending yourself to the
hellfire.
